The Truth About Separating Yourself From The Multitude of Humanity
A famous quote by well revered author Og Mandino
Separate yourself now from the multitude of humanity so that you will be able to control your own destiny. Remember that what others think and say and do need never influence what you think and say and do.
– Og Mandino
I love this quote because of how it makes me think, and reflect on all the actions I’ve made in my life.
However I’ve come to realise that it is indeed, very difficult to actually ‘control your own destiny’. Hence this blog post is about the truth of separating yourself from the multitude of humanity – what lies ahead for an individual who manages to do this, and whether or not they’ll achieve true happiness.
I can only speak from my own experiences, as well as the experience of others I’ve spoken to. Unanimously; we don’t believe that it is ideal to separate ourselves from the multitude of humanity, and here is why.
We Don’t Hate Society
Over the years of speaking with friends, select members of my family, as well as some acquaintances, I’ve noticed that many people actually ‘despise’ society. What it is, how it is made up, and how it operates.
However, whilst I may disagree with the ideals our society forces upon its people, I don’t hate it, why? Because I am a part of it.
Some of my goals in the future are to change society; rather the parts I feel are mentally and physically damaging towards our youth. They way certain forms of media are shown, televised and distributed in particular – all for the sake of limiting confusion amongst our communities, with regards to how they should live their lives.
On the other side of the coin, separating ourselves may very well be a good thing. But this depends on a very important factor.
Are you separating yourself because you want to create your own niche, your own beliefs and values born from your own individualistic analysis of the world? Or are you doing so, purely because you hate the way the world currently works? Or maybe it’s both?
The first question I ask myself is, what does it even mean to separate yourself from humanity?
For me, it means to analyse and question every existing belief I have about a subject, relating to myself and the world, and to ask myself whether I agree or disagree with it.
Personally, I feel the worst thing anybody can do is to become a non-conformist for the sake of doing so. To be difference and unique “just because”
Not only is it more difficult to live and function as a healthy human being today, but also because the perceived sense of ‘righteousness’ could easily turn into stubbornness. You may even end up depressed if you don’t agree fundamentally with what you’re doing, as you’re only participating in said activity in order to elicit a positive response in the form of self-validation from others.
There Is High-Risk Involved
It’s probably the most difficult sets of decisions you’ll ever make in your life. I’ve gone against the status-quo countless times, and if I had the opportunity to reenact and change certain events from the past in favour of following my own ideals – I’d do so without hesitation.
Let’s take a look at the world of work.
Amongst my peers, ‘getting a job’ is the rudimentary accepted notion for an individual that has recently graduated from university. It is the done thing, but it doesn’t make it right or wrong. However, it is seen as the ideal step a young person should take, without much thought and consideration for alternative options.
How often at school, college or University was there an opportunity to explore the world of self-employment? Very little in all honesty. I don’t think I even understood what the term self-employment even meant until I left college.
Society as a whole, trains our children to become efficient workers rather than forward thinkers. This isn’t ‘bad’ per-se, it’s just the preferred method of growing an organisation, all in the name of getting your ‘foot on the ladder’.
Besides, most businesses fail and close-up close within their first 5 years. Online businesses are even more prevalent of perpetual failure, as the low barrier to entry enables so many individuals to jump in, create a website and expect to be raking in millions before their next birthday.
It’s predominantly this level of risk, that puts self-employment as a viable option in the backburner with regards to career options and progression.
Funnily enough, the same applies to almost anything else that requires huge sacrifices for huge rewards in the future.
Another one of the difficulties of separating yourself from the multitude of humanity, is the potential for loneliness to creep into your life.
Take a look at marriage for example; divorce is currently still on the rise, however marriage is still the preferred method of ‘proving to the world’ (the world really doesn’t care), how much you love someone.
Whilst I’m a huge advocate of co-habitual relationships, and prenuptial agreements – there is no doubt that those who are in such positions are considered slightly odd, or less role-model worthy for children to follow.
The same applies to the drinking culture amoungst the youth in the UK. Especially in universities. You don’t drink? You’re either religious or there is something wrong with you.
However this sense of loneliness does provide one major advantage. The power of solitude and finding the right people to spend your life with. In other words, by creating your own niche (doing your own thing), you are opening up the doors to those who agree and believe in what you do.
It really doesn’t matter whether you separate yourself from society or decide to go along with it – as long as you’re living your life in accordance to your beliefs and values, then you’re doing the right thing.
If you agree with society’s definition and perception of success, then by all means live accordingly!
However if you believe and resonate best with the opposite, then follow through with it – just beware that you’ll have more pressure bestowed upon you from almost anything with a voice, that may sway you in favor of ‘security’.