Why Do Some People Hate Society?
An important question with many possible answers. Today I want to explore a personal thought that has been on my mind for a considerable amount of time.
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I have a firm belief that people detest society because of the many imposing rules and customs which pressures us to ‘fit in’. This in turn causes our self-esteem to deteriorate as we will always be measuring themselves up against the standards imposed by our society and local communities.
The media plays a very big role in how we view the world and ourselves. With the growth of technology and the amount of adverts shown on television, not to mention the kind of discussions taking place on internet forums, we feel obligated to reach the ideals portrayed to us on a daily basis.
However, these ideals we’re subjected to do not exist primarily to lower our self-esteem, but rather to create scarcity.
At the end of the day large corporations will stop at nothing to sell their product or service, and if making people feel low in the process grows their business, then they’ll be more than willing to pump more money into advertising which promotes that sort of negative motivation.
The media aren’t the only group who influence our opinions and alter the state of our belief system.
People who try to force their beliefs and negatively bred ideologies down our throats, are just as bad if not worse than the media. At least with respect to most forms of entertainment, you can pause, stop, delete and throw away when things are becoming too noisy (Hello, Social Networks).
Unfortunately the same can’t be said for people however.
Here are a few examples of people’s behaviour and underlying mentalities that leads others to think that society is finished and individuality forever stifled.
- Teenage peer-pressure to drink, take drugs and partake in endless bouts of unprotected sex.
- The idea that if you don’t want to get married or have children, then you’re afraid of commitment and responsibility.
- Radical feminists whose personal and collective mission is to make sure women get better treatment than men.
- The belief that women who don’t wear make-up just don’t like to make any effort with regards to their appearance.
Despite this, I feel that the pressure to conform is affecting the younger generation the most. Some children, girls in particular, are being brought up to believe that appearance is everything – and for boys; rank, power and status.
These are concepts I try to eliminate everyday from my life, because they bring about no benefit to me, my ideals or my goals and dreams.
If you’ve been regularly reading the articles I write on my site, you are probably well aware of my ‘obsession’ towards redefining existing concepts and ideas such as: success, failure, happiness, rejection and uncertainly, and the benefits doing so provides to one’s life, especially from a balanced life perspective.
I take the same approach with regards to society and community. In my opinion, whether I like it or not, I am a part of society and I always will be.
However, this doesn’t mean that I agree with the way my society is run, and how it handles particular situations.
The terms ‘fitting-in’ and ‘conforming’ don’t actually exist in my immediate reality. Why?
Because there will always be people in the world who agree with what you’re doing – regardless of their number and whether it is considered by the majority as ‘socially acceptable’ or ‘appropriate’.
People who are scared of being alone and prefer to be in a volatile friendship group for fear of being ostracised, are bound by that very curse, and are in fact contributing to the problem they are in by giving strength to those who hurt them.
I’m a huge advocate of stepping away from this mentality and thought process by instead creating what I call “Your Own Niche.”
Create Your Own Niche
A group of humans broadly distinguished from other groups by mutual interests, participation in characteristic relationships, shared institutions, and a common culture.
Ahh, I don’t even need to change the definition because it works perfectly and I agree with it. So that is what a society is, I see…distinguished from other groups by mutual interests. There is no implication of fitting in, except for maybe ‘a common culture’
Creating your own niche is a modern phrase for creating your own kind of society.
It means that you create your own ideals, beliefs and live by them proudly. In other words you are actually creating your own culture. People around the world will find you, purely because they are attracted to the culture you have created.
This is further illustrated when you set out to create a service of value, because people will love you purely because of what you do and bring to their lives.
Steve Kamb at NerdFitness is an example of someone who created a portal where nerds and geeks get super-fit through the use of his training programs. I plan to do the same, with my portal of helping others create and instil balance in their lives.
“The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. And you have to be strong enough to say, if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it. Create your own.” – Morrie Schwartz