How To Make Positive Changes In Your Life
Today I want to delve a little deeper into the personal development realm with a somewhat light, but thorough explanation of how we can make positive changes in our lives.
Creating Your Best Self
This refers to the idea of asking yourself a series of questions that will help you reach your goals faster or more efficiently.
We can use this technique to ponder and contemplate between two or more decisions that we’re unsure about.
Without going in extreme detail, we can ask ourselves questions such as “what would my best-self do in this situation?” and “how would they weigh up the advantages and disadvantages in this position?” in order to make the best choices in our everyday life.
Creating an image or a vision of your best self can take a long time to accomplish.
I’m talking at least a week and potentially more.
However, the problem I usually struggle with is learning how to live into my vision immediately.
Or rather, living into the vision I have created as if I have already become him.
Being able to do this is extremely difficult from my experience, and sometimes stringent will-power isn’t enough to achieve your goals.
It is still a good technique for finding out what you’re good at, and what you need to work on.
Make Positive Changes Through Habit Replacement
Another technique for making positive changes in your life is through habit change.
More so, gradual habit replacement.
It’s about teaching your mind and your body exactly what you want from them by constantly exposing them to a new stimulus.
This is my favourite technique for making positive changes in my life because the process is gradual – and it gives my mind and body time to adjust to the new change.
This isn’t to say that you can’t change your habits from one end of the spectrum to the other in 24 hours, because you can – and I have.
It just depends on what you’re trying to achieve and change in your life.
However, my body rejects the stimulus violently whether it is good for me or not.
It’s quite funny actually, this reminds me of the first time I switched from a high processed, unhealthy diet to a diet high in fibre.
My body didn’t forgive me or let me sleep properly for at least 48 hours!
I believe that the mind and body gets the best results from a new stimulant when it is gradually exposed to it consistently.
It’s about giving your body the time to treat the stimulant as a ‘new-normal’.
I also refer to this technique as ‘progressive will-power’.
Habit replacement also teaches you the skill of delayed gratification, which is an invaluable asset for success.
Why do people struggle making positive changes in their lives?
To be perfectly honest, there are a plethora of reasons including but not limited to:
- Lack of desire
- Lack of support network
- No life purpose
- Weak intrinsic motivational factors
- Limiting beliefs and interpretations of the success/failure dichotomy.
However I’ve found that during my experience and 5-year tenure with personal development, as well as all the social interactions I’ve had with people of various backgrounds, their lack of desire is not the main thing they lack.
“When you want success as much as you want to breathe – then you’ll succeed.” – Don’t know who.
You hear many motivational coaches say “if you want success as badly as you want to breathe – then you’ll succeed.”
It’s a well-rounded statement, but really? I breathe because I have to, not because I want to. No matter how badly you want success, it won’t happen if you’re missing the most important ingredients that are holding you back from that success.
It’s like trying to cook spaghetti tetrazzini without spaghetti! – “oh if I try hard enough, and I really believe it, then this tetrazzini without spaghetti will end up as spaghetti tetrazzini.” No it won’t! Because you’re using rice instead of spaghetti!
The Process of Success
Understanding the process of success is just as important as taking action to get your desired result as well.
Action is the most important component in the recipe of success, but it isn’t the only one.
“The plants you seed today are what you will reap tomorrow.”
Whilst the above quote is correct, it doesn’t help you in any meaningful way.
It sounds cool and provides insight, but it doesn’t tell you what you need to know.
Having access to the correct information and doing your research is critically important to your success.
If you think you can gain weight healthily without any fat in your diet, then you’re sadly mistaken.
No amount of hard work or effort will bring success to you in this fashion.
Knowledge is information.
Information is power.
Information gives you the power to change.
Your beliefs are very important. They make up who you are.
Not only referring to your beliefs about yourself and overall self-worth, but also your beliefs about life concepts and ideas that prevents others from success, such as rejection and the unknown.
They are both lovely words I redefined a few years ago to suit my needs rather than work against me. I haven’t looked back since.
Even geniuses make plans, usually very intricate and elaborate nonetheless.
Plans give you a blueprint to lead you towards your goals and wherever you may wish to head next.
Every building is made with a plan in mind.
Apply the same logic here whilst asking yourself the following questions.
- Where do I want to head next?
- Why do I really want to achieve that goal?
- Is this plan going to make me insane overtime? Maybe I should turn down the frequency/level/repetition/hours a bit.
I really have nothing to add here, except that consistency is key in all your pursuits in life – from work to exercise and even in some cases, love.
Making positive changes in your life isn’t easy, but it doesn’t have to be gut-wrenching either.
You don’t need to beat yourself up to make up for lost time, but you must forgive yourself for your past mistakes.
Focus on one aspect of your life you want to change at a time, and you’ll get there in the end.